Sometimes issues like that of Yul Edochie, could make you wonder why men don’t use condom when they fall to adultery.
It is a serious issue and we know it requires attention. Could it be that men just want to damn the consequences of unprotected sex?
That is unlikely. No man wants to cause so much trouble for his home as a result of few minutes of pleasure.
Definitely, there is a major reason some men don’t use condom.
How To Use A Condom
Casting my mind back to my days in a youth service camp, I could remember how it felt listening to a company promoting condom.
“This is how to use a condom,” the lady began.
“Rub your finger on the edges and you will find that it has a zig-zag nature. This is so you can easily open the condom up.
“Do not use your teeth. You will tear the condom or injure it,” she continued.
I looked around to see how much attention ladies gave to this all important session, but very few were really paying attention.
They must be thinking; ‘it is the man’s business’. But I wondered why the choice of a lady in delivering this message of caution against unprotected sex?
Is it just about catching men’s attention – the sex appeal thing – of there is more?
I continued listening.
“Just hold one of the zig-zag edges and apply little force like you do when you want to tear a paper.
“The pack will open up, revealing the condom in the pack.
“Afterwards, ensure that you look for the side that rolls up. If you put it the wrong way, you will not be able to pull it up to the base of the penis.”
Fortunately for most of us, we had condoms in our hands – the free pack – and we could practice.
She brought out a dildo and then gave us a vivid class on how to roll it up.
We learnt but most ladies did not.
Main Reason Men Don’t Use Condom
While her explanation was vivid and interesting there were limitations.
There is really a limit to how much she could tell us, since being a lady, she is limited in experience of the real result.
As she lands, I heard some men scream: “Skin-to-skin”. What an outright submission of lack of dedicated interest.
A study identifies issues around time and situation and then some around how partners met to be reasons men don’t use condom (1).
While this is true in some situations, there is a different reason men don’t use condom.
Cast your mind back to the process of using condom that the lady at the youth service camp explained.
Right there you will find that there is something about using a condom.
She is a lady and she will not understand.
Not all men are able to overcome the issue that we will identify here. Most of them will never let their partner know.
Unfortunately, it is common with most men.
As a man advances in age, there is this diminishing ability to hold erection and simple distractions could result in a loss of erection.
The moment a man remembers there is a condom to use, there is usually a shift in thought process.
If the condom is not on the bed or handy at the time, he will have to intercept the pleasure of the moment, get the condom, open it and identify the right side that rolls up.
This process right here distracts the man from his intentions and that could make the penis begin to lose erection.
No man wants to get to that height and allow the process of getting a condom and inserting it the right way lower libido.
As a result of this, most men avoid using a condom.
Safety Is Less Of A Concern
Really, you will wonder if they are not afraid of contracting a sexually transmitted disease.
On this ground, a study found that most men will rather take the chance and face the consequences later (2).
Most men are aware that most sexually transmitted diseases are treatable. This gives them a subtle assurance.
Also, they tend to assume they know how clean their partners could be.
As such, they are more concerned about the pleasure they would get than running the risk of losing erection in a bid to protect themselves.
More Resources For Men’s Sexual Health
- Men’s Sexual Health: How Not To Be A 2-Minute Man
- Foods That Work On Your Penis And Help Hold Erection
- Alcohol And Lasting Long During Sex: How True?
- Honey For Boosting Sexual Drive | Side Effect And How To Use
If a man knows how to hold erection for those seconds of distraction – wearing a condom – he would be delighted to use it.
To help, we have identified some positive practices in an earlier article on, how a man can hold erection for long.
If you take your time to read it, you can help your partner improve erection time.
Lady Partner May Be Less Concerned
Another reason men don’t use condom is that a lady partner may not show so much concern whether the man uses a condom or not.
If a lady insists, the man may have no option than to try.
But if the lady shows no much concern, the man carries on without a condom.
The consent of skin-to-skin sexual intercourse by women is also another reason men don’t use condom.
Furthermore, some men claim they do not derive satisfaction when they use a condom.
They have their reasons, but to a very large extent, condoms give satisfaction.
Markers of condom have done their best to ensure that the condom is as close to the skin as possible.
This ensures that a man could derive the same level of satisfaction and contact when he uses a condom.
The ladies are in a better position to encourage their partners to use a condom.
See our article on how a lady can make using a condom a great experience for every man.