Orgasm is one thing a woman looks forward to each time she engages in sexual intercourse.
It is a desire sitting deep in her emotions, but most men do not just take women to orgasm.
Why are we talking about this?
According to the World Association for Sexual Health, an orgasm is an effective indicator of sexual pleasure and healthy sexuality.
Also, it is one of the important predictors of happy relationships, and related sexual satisfaction.
The association says “without a doubt, a better understanding of the predictors of female sexual orgasms would be a most valuable achievement, and would be one key factor in improving equality among women, and gender equality”.
As important as this matter is, some men are not able to make their woman experience this level of sexual satisfaction.
They ejaculate just when she is close to this ecstatic orgasmic realm, leaving her unsatisfied, sexually.
Unfortunately, some men would not muster the desire to continue after ejaculation.
Those who know how to maintain the momentum are able to bring their lady to orgasm after ejaculate.
What actually leads to this poor outing as it seems.
These few issues could be the major factors
1. No Foreplay
Most men are just in a hurry and their attention is just in the vagina penetration and not on satisfying the lady.
Truly, sexual intercourse is selfish when the man is just all about ejaculating and ‘calming down’.
It could make a woman develop some form of dislike for sexual activities or even seek satisfaction elsewhere.
This is the more reason men should engage in foreplay to get the lady close to orgasmic satisfaction before penetration.
2. Anxiety
The desire to make love to a lady could mount so much pressure on a man and make him ejaculate fast.
This often happens before a lady gets close to this orgasmic realm.
This situation could be managed if the man will relax and take things easy.
3. Underlying Health Condition
If a man has quick ejaculation issues or erectile dysfunction, he will be unable to hold on till his partner gets orgasm.
This condition is treatable and sometimes corrected by mere lifestyle adjustments.
These have been well discussed in our earlier articles.
4. Poor Sexual Technique
Partners with poor sexual techniques often find it hard to achieve an orgasm.
They lack the basic knowledge of the right place to touch or the right position that stimulates orgasm.
As a result, they keep desiring an orgasm, but it never happens.
This emphasises the need for partners to devote time to learning the art of sex. Know the right things to do and doing it bring the lady to this desired realm.
Some of the positions that work are those that ensures the man stimulates the clitoris while also trucking.
Unfortunately, some ladies do not get orgasm for some other issues which a study identified.
Be that as it may, doing a few things will change your experience and make you get to this orgasmic realm easily.
1. Change The Way You See Orgasm
According to a study, men experience orgasms more frequently than women. The figure is 90% of men against 59% of women (1).
For some weird reasons some women do not desire this orgasmic realm.
The study says individual’s response to sexual pleasure during their life is a mixture of both the physical processes and the subjective responses to those processes.
Some refer to the sensation of orgasm as being frightening; others speak of it as being the most exciting, fulfilling, and enjoyable sensation imaginable.
Also, some women experience orgasm as the ultimate loss of control. As a result, they consider it to be a vulnerability that should be avoided.
Based on this, as a woman, changing the way you see orgasm would help you enjoy it.
2. Master The Techniques
Again, this calls for the need to learn how to make a woman reach orgasm.
From sex positions to other manual stimulations that focus on the vagina and the clitoris; all of those stimulate orgasm.
In a study in Finland more than half of the women (54%) in the study said they usually achieve an orgasm via stimulating both the clitoris and vagina (2).
The more the man focuses on making her reach orgasm, the more he is able to get to it.
Studies have also linked sexual techniques to reaching of orgasm (3).
3. The Need For Men To Stay Longer
According to the earlier cited study, the longer a man stays in the more the chances of the lady reaching orgasm.
The study says duration of intercourse is strongly associated with women’s ability to experience orgasm during intercourse.
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Categorically, women whose love-making usually lasted a minimum of 15 minutes achieved an orgasm more easily than women whose intercourse was shorter.
4. How Important Is Orgasm To You?
Another interesting thing the study found was that women who considered orgasm important often get it.
It documents that “women who considered their orgasms to be very important, almost 90%, usually had orgasms during intercourse”.
This is psychological and one way that women can get orgasm.
A woman must first desire to get orgasm and look forward to it while applying different stimulations that will propel it.
This way, she is sure getting it.
If you have never experienced orgasm, please, share with us your experience and we can help in the little way we can.